February 7, 2013

R-E-S-P-E-C-T where'd you go?

Surely this can't be a true representation of today's youth?!
 

18 year old Florida resident, Penelope Soto, charged with drug possession, laughed her way through her bail hearing. He warned her to be serious multiple times. She got upset when the judge increased the $5,000 bail bond to $10,000 because of her lack of respect. As she left the court room she flipped the judge the bird, accompanied with a verbal "F*** Y**". She was shocked when he found her in contempt and sentenced her to 30 days in jail. **Now in her defense, she did OK the first bit but when the Judge didn't like her attitude, she should have gone quietly.

 

Where has all the RESPECT gone?
1re·spect noun \ri-╦łspekt\ Definition of RESPECT 1 : a relation or reference to a particular thing or situation 2 : an act of giving particular attention : consideration 3 a : high or special regard : esteem b : the quality or state of being esteemed c plural : expressions of high or special regard or deference
I see the lack of it on the playground, in the school hall, at the mall, on the train... more than ever it seems, or is my perception just heightened at this point in my life?

I'm not a big fan of swearing, especially AT someone, so that's on my list of pet peeves, I heard a grade 2 kid telling the other kids in the playground to F*** O**. Um.... that's just NOT OK in my books (at any age).

Other pet peeves include; spitting, pushing, interrupting, name-calling, bullies (IRL & Cyber), hogging both armrests in the theatre, not saying please or thank you or sorry, chewing gum with an open mouth, littering... I could go on.  To me, it's a sign of a lack of respect, for themselves and for others.

Emily Post is rolling over in her grave.

What happened to being courteous, thoughtful and considerate of others around you?

Did you know there was a day when it was considered rude for a man to swear in front of a woman? Nowadays, nobody seems to care what they say and they'll say it wherever and to whomever they wish with absolutely no regard.

Women are being called a "B***H" more and more in TV shows and in movies today than ever before. This translates into day-to-day interactions and I hear it all the time in the mall, like it's an enduring term for a girl. IT IS NOT!

Is it just me, or is there a deep-seated level of hostility out there?!

"Without the feelings of respect, what is there to distinguish men from beasts?" ~ Confucius 

What are you doing with your children to make sure they don't grow up to be beasts?

21 comments:

  1. Couldn't agree more! I tell my kids kindness is always better than name-calling or fighting back with rude words. It is something you really have to make a point of. It's easy to get swept up in negativity. Also, I try to set a good example myself.

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    1. That's a great way, to lead by example.

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  2. I agree!! WE need to teach our kids more about RESPECT! It is missing so often! Great post!

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    1. for sure, thanks for reading it and commenting.

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  3. Both hubs and I swear a lot. I try to not, but I do. One thing I know for certain and have been told by every adult who has ever spoken to any of my 4 kids (aged 4-18) is that they are so respectful and so polite. My kids have had the odd swear and we corrected it. They would never speak to anyone oike this ever. I hate blaming parents but who else would be to blame? Our kids are never apanked and have never been grounded. We treat them with respect and communicate with them. They do what they see. I am happy to say my kids have respect for others.
    Great post. Shocking that anyone would act like this

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    1. I kinda blame reality TV... if you think about it, those "celebrities" who are watched by this particular generation as something to aspire to, the Paris Hiltons & the Lohans who seem to take their actions so lightly, no matter if they're in a court room or not. kwim?

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  4. Good for him! I bet she was shocked. I'd be curious to see the after image when she spent her 30 days in jail.

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    1. hopefully she'll learn her lesson and maybe turn it around to help people because of her experience.

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  5. Wow! Great post, Shannon! I'm totally with you! I see this too and even with young children! It's so sad to see a whole generation growing up like this. Not to date myself, but things sure have changed in terms of the way people treat each other. When I was a kid, this was unacceptable and unheard of. Gross.

    Thanks for sharing such a great post.

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    1. I think you're right, we would NEVER have even thought of flipping off someone in such a position of authority. Judges, Police Officers etc do not need to earn our respect, their office demands we respect it. In my opinion anyway.

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  6. I was so glad to see the judge didn't let her get away with her behavior. Who knows, maybe this will help her to turn her life around?!

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    1. some say he was too harsh, but in my opinion, being too lenient hasn't helped this generation out either...

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  7. At least he had the decency to make her pay for her actions. How she got in there all drugged out is another story. To your point on reality TV, I completely agree, it's ridiculous.

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    1. I'm wondering that too, he asked her if she was taken anything and she said no, but it sure looks like eh

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  8. We need to model the behaviour at home and have a certain level of expectations for our kids. Seeing how strung out or deluded this girl is is sad. I hope this straightens her out.

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    1. you'd think that she would have had to have been sober during that moment, I hope she does learn something and doesn't take the attention as something cool to do again.

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  9. There are few that have respect now and why? Because parents hand them everything on a gold platter, so most kids now think the world owes them something and most seem to have a sense of entitlement it's ridiculous. Some have parents that are just as bad. What ever happened to working or doing chores for what you want? When they don't get what they want when they are older that's when the robberies start, they get what they want right now no matter what! I think parents are learning not to coddle their kids and give in to there every whim, hopefully this next generation is better or the world will be a sad place. Great post!

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  10. So true! I see it more and more as well, even in church groups, which is even more shocking. I'm going to agree with Doris a little with the entitlement thing, but I don't think it's just that. I also think a big part is that children learn it from their parents. You said that men used to not swear in front of women, well it also used to be that you never swore in front of kids. It seems that a lot of people think it's funny if their kids swear. I just know it is a major problem for our society, one that society doesn't seem to be doing anything about. The books, tv, movies and such just keep getting worse. We can't let our kids watch hardly anything these days. When I was growing up there were several shows during prime time that we watched as a family. I'm only in my 30's, so there has been a big change in a very few years.

    I think there are other problems as well with neighbors not being so neighborly and people just not caring about each other. There is that whole attitude that if it doesn't affect me then I don't care. I think this is a huge problem. When we don't care about anything and don't try to prevent anything, then we aren't helping or fixing anything.

    In our home, we're extremely selective about what our kids listen to and watch. We also don't allow name calling. The "S" word in our home is stupid. We are big on being obedient, but we're also big on being rewarded for doing good things and being kind. I think that if you can teach your kids to act appropriately at home then that carries to the outside world. Our goal is for our family and home life to be happy, but also to be a positive influence on others outside of our home.

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  11. Sadly, the world is becoming a very unpleasant place and it's everywhere. It is much easier to see and hear about now compared to 20 years ago, and it's never ending. This girl definitely deserved what she got.

    My kids are currently learning sarcasm and sass, but also know to respect adults. If they're disrespectful, they're punished. Simple. No wrong doing should go ignore, don't care how big or small it is.

    I am huge on my kids being punished for wrong doings. It's the only way they will learn. If they are let away with anything and everything, they'll be another generation of disrespectful beings.

    One of my biggest peeves is hearing a child drop the F bomb. Makes my skin crawl. They are kids, they shouldn't speak that way.

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