March 13, 2013

Don't Pop My Bubble! by @julienowell

I first met Julie at BlissDom Canada this past October, she won a makeover from The Marilyn Denis Show. What an incredible way to kick off such a fantastic blogging conference!!! A few things caught my attention about Julie... #1 she's from BC and anyone from my home Province is OK in my books and #2 she's probably just about as bubbly and outgoing as I am.

Today I reached out to my friends to ask for their help, I'm suffering with writer's block at this particular moment in time. Shocking, I know!! So like all good friends, Julie was the 1st to send me an article she wrote for me to post. :)

Thanks Julie for being the person to supply me with my 1,000th blog post!

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I sometimes forget that the words I share on the web are actually being read. In fact, I think we all do. As a blogger writer, I write my words for me, and me alone. The world I create online is just a stream of thoughts, some perfectly true, others, my perspective, which could make them untrue from your point of view.


But, and this is the important part, since it is my world, and I invite you in (or don't invite you in) it is under my control, and built to support my story.  

My story. Not your story.

That means that if you don't like what I have to say, I would prefer you wander your little mind off my blog and take your opinions elsewhere.

As a writer I do my very, very best to share enough information for you to understand my story.

But, I'm not perfect, and I am not a perfect writer. Sometimes you will not fully understand what I am saying, but that doesn't mean I have opened up my world for you to destroy it. That does not mean that the cracks there are for you to wedge open. This is not investigative journalism, this is not for you to touch.

But destroy it you do. Like a pin to my balloon, you trample your dirty feet over my world. I create stories and ideas with my writing. And when you don't understand, well, it makes me sad. It makes me confused, and hurt and I feel weakened.

I know not everyone will like and support me. I get that, I wear big girl panties, but nor do I understand why those "unsupporters" feel the need to publicly hang me.

In my world they do this. To my thoughts and opinions.

If I were standing in a room and telling my story, would you stand up in the crowd and demean my ideas? Would you make it about you? Would you take my talking stick and cut me off mid sentence?

Or, perhaps, would you use that instance to take me aside and speak to me one on one, or just let it sit and allow this to be a moment where your values are further defined, even if it means they drift farther from mine.

Just because there is a comment box at the end of my posts, doesn't mean I am opening up the opportunity for cruelty, or setting the stage for a "calling out."

Your cat calls and gossip don't help me to feel supported when I become vulnerable and share my thoughts.

And if you really think you are the one to stand up and stomp on my thoughts, don't do it in my world - start your own: become a blogger. Wear the shoe, and see how it fits.

Oh, and don't forget to keep that comment box open!

~ Julie Nowell

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27 comments:

  1. Oh, I love this post! I'm going to have to bookmark and share this!! Julie Nowell is one of my heroes :) You are too, Shasher! You are in a class of your own. For real. Classy, honest, real. xo

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    1. Thanks Christine! It was so nice to hang out with you some more on Monday night!

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    2. oooh. I have never been a hero before! Does this mean I can wear a cape around town?

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    3. Shasher, you are one of the most amazing ladies I've ever met! Genuine, honest, and simply fabulous. Jules, you can absolutely wear a cape around town! If I ever meet up with you at a social media event, you'd better be sporting that cape!! ;)

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  2. Agree!! I see a lot of people who live lives different from mine. I am a firm believer in I believe what I believe, and you won't change that, but I find it interesting finding out what you believe! It's what makes us unique and special. But it really stings that others don't use that as the opportunity. It's ok to feel different, and even share that but in a respectful way!

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    1. Exactly, celebrating our differences instead of arguing about them.

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  3. WhooooHoooo. Don't mess with our Julie! Great post. Great share!

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  4. I want to stand up and applaud! This is EXACTLY HOW I FEEL!!! This is an amazing article! Thank you Julie for telling the story, that us bloggers, think and feel! You nailed it on the head!

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    1. I'm sure there are a lot of bloggers who'd agree :)

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    2. Yay! It's time we all say how we feel - and starve those darn trolls!

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  5. As usual, the fabulous Julie Nowell hits the nail on the head with wit, style and a deliciously entertaining style. I'm a lucky, lucky woman to be able to call both of you my friends. :)

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    1. I'm the lucky one! Kat you amaze me - your energy is infectious, I love being around you.

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  6. Happy 1000th post, Shash! Very kind of Julie to guest post for this special occasion.

    Jenna Em

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  7. Great post hun, happy 1000th, so very true and you took the words right out of my mouth. I just started a new blog and already had some woman bash me all because I was sick for a day and didn't publish her comment right away. I replied back thanks for your lovely comment .... hahaha always better to smile and forget those who only want to bring others down.

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  8. Happy 1000th post. I have no idea who Julie is.. sorry. But, cool you were able to meet her.

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    1. Awe sheila - you mean my fame hasn't hit your neck of the woods yet? But, my ripples are tiny, so understandable! So sad by this. . . maybe we can get to know each other now! :)

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  9. great post! I too often forget .... or rather put it in the back of my mind... that when I write it is out there for the world to see. I too often write for myself, when I feel inspired or when I need to be inspired! thanks for sharing Shannon and Julie

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  10. This is the first I've heard of Julie, too, but I'm already a fan :) Love, love, love this! Thanks for sharing and happy 1000th post!!!

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  11. Well said Julie. The internet makes it far too easy for people to hide behind their online persona and say/do things that they wouldn't dare do in real life. I don't understand why people have to just dig and dig into someone and what they wrote. Don't like it? Use that little red X up there and just go away!

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  12. My apologies, I do not know who Julie is; however, I feel like I might have seen her name before somewhere. Congrats on your 1,000th post!

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    1. I will not tolerate rudeness on MY blog. #delete

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  14. great post. Goes back to when my mother taught me If I didn't have anything nice to say, not to say anything at all.

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  15. yes, this is so true. Great post Julie!

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Thanks for taking the time to comment!!